можно проще

Код:
but2._xscale = 0;
but1.pressed = false;
but1.onRelease = function():Void {
this.pressed = true;
this._parent.but2._xscale = 100;
trace("but1");
this._xscale = 0;
};
but2.onRelease = function():Void {
this._parent.but1.pressed = false;
this._parent.but1._xscale = 100;
trace("but2");
this._xscale = 0;
};